李開復－如果你已經20歲了 你真的輸不起了

如果你已經過了20歲但還不到25歲的話，你必須找到除了愛情之外，能夠使你用雙腳堅強站在大地上的東西。
你要找到謀生的方式，現在考慮不晚了。

我從來不以為學歷有什麼重要，天才都不是科班。
但，不是科班，連龍套都跑不了。

你必須把那些浮如飄絮的思緒，漸漸轉化為清晰的思路和簡單的文字。
華麗和漂浮都不易長久。
你要知道，給予文字閱讀快感不夠的，內容，思想，境界，靈魂，精神和智慧，這些才重要。

不要多看那些和你一個路數的女作家的文字。
不要瑣碎，無病呻吟。
不要想到什麼就寫。
不要流連於小感傷和小感動。

我要你相信溫暖，美好，信任，尊嚴，堅強這些老掉牙的字眼。
我不要你頹廢，空虛，迷茫，糟踐自己，傷害別人。
我不要你把自己處理得一團糟。
節制自己的感情並且珍惜它，明白這種感情不是任何人都能要。

千萬不要認同那些偽裝的酷和另類。
他們是無事可做的人找出來放任自己無事可做的藉口，真正的酷是在內心。
你要有強大的內心。

要有任憑時間流逝，不會磨折和屈服的信念。
不是因為在學校的象牙塔中，才說出我愛世界這樣的話，是知道外面的黑、髒、醜陋之後，還要說出這樣的話。

好好去愛，去生活。
青春如此短暫，不要歎老。
偶爾可以停下來休息，但是別蹲下來張望。

走了一條路的時候，記得別回頭看。
時不時問問自己，自己在幹嘛？
傷心和委屈的時候，要嚎啕大哭。
哭完洗完臉，拍拍自己的臉，擠出一個微笑給自己看。
不要揉，否則第二天早上會眼睛腫。

給自己一個遠大的前程和目標。
記得常常仰望天空，記住仰望天空的時候也看看腳下。

任何時候，任何人問你，有過多少次戀愛，答案是兩次。
一次是他愛我，我不愛他。一次是我愛他，他不愛我。
好的愛情永遠在下一次，別給同一個人兩次傷害你的機會。

不要與浪子，文藝青年交往，別和沒心沒肺的人在一起，別和沒有正當職業混日子的人在一起。
別把犯賤當真愛。一個人作踐自己來取悅你的時候，千萬不要因此感動。
一個男人的煙頭燙在他身上，下一個就可能燙在你身上。
同樣的，當這個女人的刀片割斷她的手腕，下次就可能割斷你的。

千萬別相信一個不準備將你介紹給他的朋友圈子的男人。
一個女人只肯喊你「寶貝」的時候，堅持要她喊你的名字，因為你是男人。
一個男人或者女人不再來找你的時候，就不要再去找他或者她。
不要相信在戀愛上用手段的人。分手時不要口出惡言。
吸取教訓，但不要後悔，後悔沒有用。

別去做撕照片，燒信，撕日記這樣一類三流愛情電視劇中才有人幹的事。
相信愛情。相信好男人和好女人還存在，還未婚，還在茫茫人海中尋覓你。
別說「男人（或者女人）沒一個好東西」，這樣使別人誤以為你閱人無數。

愛物質，適當地。永遠知道精神更重要。
比起那些名錶，名牌，時裝，更加美麗的是勤奮而有朝氣的你自己。

如果你20歲以後所花的每一分錢還都是伸手向父母親人要來的，那你的滿身名牌就只能襯托出你的無恥。
別以為穿上名牌你就有品位，要知道如果沒有真正的內涵，騾子配上金鞍也不會變成駿馬。
你還年輕，先不說開始你的事業，開創你的未來，但你已經成年，至少也要讓自己不再成為父母的負擔，讓父母看到20年辛苦養育的希望。

無所事事只會把你變成一個廢物，一個被所有其他人鄙夷的廢物，因為這樣的你是一個不折不扣的寄生蟲。
別以為弄個怪異的髮型，穿上不男不女的衣服，噴上刺鼻的香水，別人就會注重你，要明白那樣招來的眼光就是別人在看一隻與眾不同的猴子。

許多有教養的人對另類的你的反感並不寫在臉上，但這種反感確鑿無疑肯定會給你帶來極其不利的後果。

別瞧不起勞動人民。不要為勞動羞恥。土地不髒，汗味不難聞。
請尊重那些似乎生活狀況不如你，但仍然用自己的雙手誠實勞動養家糊口的人，因為這樣才是尊重自己。
永遠體恤那些生活在底層的人們，因為我們的親人就是在這些人群中。
我們不嬌貴。我們必須能夠自己養活自己，這是你的尊嚴所在。

不要小看一分錢。不妨自己去掙掙看。
做人有時要強悍一點，被欺負的時候，一定要討回來！
但是不要記恨。小人之見，隨他們去好了。
有原則的寬容和憐憫，會使你高貴。

有小心機的女生是可愛的，但別把這種心計用在勾心鬥角上，那樣會很累。
做人不要太高調，高調容易招惹是非。
但也不能太低調，該強悍時則強悍，但切不可咄咄逼人。

被朋友傷害了的時候，別懷疑友情，但提防背叛你的人。
原諒，但並不遺忘。

做人存幾分天真童心，對朋友保持一些俠義之情。
要快樂，要開朗，要堅韌，要溫暖。
這和性格無關。但你要忠誠，勤奮，要真誠的尊重別人，這樣你的人生才不會黑暗。

寬待自己，也寬待別人。當你不會因為小小的不如意小小的事而生氣或難過的時候，你會輕鬆很多。

要原諒這個世界和自己。
要告訴自己，我值得擁有最好的一切。

conference ....

within me

Today I relax my mind and my body. I am safe.
I am centered, calm and balanced. I declare peace and harmony within me and around me.
The deep, intimate connection I am searching for is within me. I am all that I am looking for.
I am love. All is well.

relax....

to live dangerously

For believe me! — the secret for harvesting from existence the greatest fruitfulness and the greatest enjoyment is: to live dangerously! Friedrich Nietzsche

She - Charles Aznavour cover

she

She
May be the face i can't forget
A trace of pleasure or regret
May be my treasure or the price i have to pay
She may be the song that summer sings
May be the chill that autumn brings
May be a hundred different things
Within the measure of a day.

She
May be the beauty or the beast
May be the famine or the feast
May turn each day into a heaven or a hell
She may be the mirror of my dreams
A smile reflected in a stream
She may not be what she may seem
Inside her shell

She who always seems so happy in a crowd
Whose eyes can be so private and so proud
No one's allowed to see them when they cry
She may be the love that cannot hope to last
May come to me from shadows of the past
That i'll remember till the day i die

She
May be the reason i survive
The why and wherefore i'm alive
The one i'll care for through the rough and ready years
Me i'll take her laughter and her tears
And make them all my souvenirs
For where she goes i've got to be
The meaning of my life is

She, she, she

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Just look without thought

I wonder if you have ever walked along a crowded street, or a lonely road, and just looked at things without thought? There is a state of observation without the interference of thought. Though you are aware of everything about you, and you recognize the person, the mountain, the tree, or the oncoming car, yet the mind is not functioning in the usual pattern of thought. I don't know if this has ever happened to you. Do try it sometime when you are driving or walking. Just look without thought; observe without the reaction which breeds thought. Though you recognize color and form, though you see the stream, the car, the goat, the bus, there is no reaction, but merely negative observation; and that very state of so-called negative observation is action. Such a mind can utilize knowledge in carrying out what it has to do, but it is free of thought in the sense that it is not functioning in terms of reaction. With such a mind, a mind that is attentive without reaction,you can go to the office, and all the rest of it. - Collected Works, Vol. XIV,205,Choiceless Awareness

The religious mind is the explosion of love

A meditative mind is silent. It is not the silence which thought can conceive of; it is not the silence of a still evening; it is the silence when thought, with all its images, its words and perceptions, has entirely ceased. This meditative mind is the religious mind, the religion that is not touched by the church, the temples or by chants.The religious mind is the explosion of love. It is this love that knows no separation. To it, far is near. It is not the one or the many, but rather that state of love in which all division ceases. Like beauty, it is not of the measure of words. From this silence alone the meditative mind acts. - The Only Revolution,115,Meditations

It has no technique and therefore no authority

Meditation is one of the greatest arts in life, perhaps the greatest, and one cannot possibly learn it from anybody. That is the beauty of it. It has no technique and therefore no authority. When you learn about yourself, watch yourself, watch the way you walk, how you eat, what you say, the gossip, the hate, the jealousy, if you are aware of all that in yourself, without any choice, that is part of meditation.So meditation can take place when you are sitting in a bus or walking in the woods full of light and shadows, or listening to the singing of birds or looking at the face of your wife or child. - Freedom from the Known,116

That drop nourishes the earth and man

It's curious how all-important meditation becomes; there's no end to it nor is there a beginning to it. It's like a raindrop: in that drop are all the streams, the great rivers, the seas and the waterfalls; that drop nourishes the earth and man; without it, the earth would be a desert. Without meditation the heart becomes a desert, a wasteland. - Krishnamurti Notebook,91

It is only when there is friction that there is noise

Meditation is to find out whether the brain, with all the activities, all its experiences, can be absolutely quiet. Not forced, because the moment you force, there is duality. The entity that says, 'I would like to have marvelous experiences, therefore I must force my brain to be quiet,' will never do it. But if you begin to inquire, observe, listen to all the movements of thought, its conditioning, its pursuits, its fears, its pleasures, watch how the brain operates, then you will see that the brain becomes extraordinarily quiet; that quietness is not sleep but is tremendously active and therefore quiet. A big dynamo that is working perfectly hardly makes a sound; it is only when there is friction that there is noise. - The Impossible Question,72

Light is light; it does not ask for more light

Always to seek for wider, deeper, transcendental experiences is a form of escape from the actual reality of 'what is,' which is ourselves, our own conditioned mind. A mind that is awake, intelligent, free, why should it need, why should it have, any experience at all? Light is light; it does not ask for more light. - The Flight of the Eagle,38

Meditation is one of the most extraordinary things, and if you do not know what it is you are like the blind man in a world of bright color, shadows and moving light. It is not an intellectual affair, but when the heart enters into the mind, the mind has quite a different quality; it is really, then, limitless, not only in its capacity to think, to act efficiently, but also in its sense of living in a vast space where you are part of everything.Meditation is the movement of love. It isn't the love of the one or of the many. It is like water that anyone can drink out of any jar, whether golden or earthenware; it is inexhaustible. And a peculiar thing takes place, which no drug or self-hypnosis can bring about; it is as though the mind enters into itself, beginning at the surface and penetrating ever more deeply, until depth and height have lost their meaning and every form of measurement ceases. In this state there is complete peace, not contentment which has come about through gratification, but a peace that has order, beauty and intensity. It can all be destroyed, as you can destroy a flower, and yet because of its very vulnerability it is indestructible. This meditation cannot be learned from another. You must begin without knowing anything about it, and move from innocence to innocence.The soil in which the meditative mind can begin is the soil of everyday life, the strife, the pain and the fleeting joy. It must begin there, and bring order, and from there move endlessly. But if you are concerned only with making order, then that very order will bring about its own limitation, and the mind will be its prisoner. In all this movement you must somehow begin from the other end, from the other shore, and not always be concerned with this shore or how to cross the river. You must take a plunge into the water, not knowing how to swim. And the beauty of meditation is that you never know where you are, where you are going, what the end is. - Meditations 1969,1

If you set out to meditate, it will not be meditation. If you set out to be good, goodness will never flower. If you cultivate humility, it ceases to be. Meditation is the breeze that comes in when you leave the window open; but if you deliberately keep it open, deliberately invite it to come, it will never appear. - The Only Revolution,37